My oldest nephew, Matt called me last nite. We talked for almost half an hour. He was in a hotel with his younger brother Kyle. Kyle's "birth Mom" was getting married today in Wisconsin and they were there to attend. He said there were no kids at the wedding though - meaning Kyle did not get to see it - which seemed odd to me.
Matt and I chatted about his swimming, school starting (he will be a frosh), his classes (several honors ones) and sports. We have much in common.
I was totally smitten with Matt since the day I saw him at 3 weeks old. He was three days old when the attorney brought him to my brothers house. My Mom and I waited till they got in a rhythm so to speak before we went to visit them in Illinois.
I worked hard to see him almost every month till he was 6. My Mom got very sick then and for about 7 months all I did was work some and then be at the hospital. It was a very stressful time for me and my brother was little or no help. I didn't get to see Matt then as I couldn't get away. That is when Kyle was born.
It is hard for me to believe that he is 14 and over 6 feet tall. I still remember this curly, red haired baby that loved his aunt "blue". Where that name came from I will never know. He would just cry each time they left or I left. He was my little buddy.
He seems to be doing well. He is very busy with his swimming and that is good. He's too tired to get into much trouble. He does well in school and is not taken over by girls. I asked him if he had a girl he liked yet and he said "no, they are too much trouble". I told him he was right and they also made him spend his money. He just laughed.
We argued about sports a bit. He said that most aunts can't do that. That made me proud. My sports knowledge does come in any.
I miss my boy. I wish I lived closer so I could see his activities at school and such. I don't have much of a relationship with my brother now and none with my sister-in-law. I do better just to stay away from them. That keeps me from the boys which is sad but it is all I know to do with the situation.
I hope Matt knows how much I love him. I wish all adopted kids had it as good as he and Kyle.
a very melancholy account indeed. were you sad to write this, or simply matter of fact. that is awesome he called you like that. do you call him on any regular basis at all? maybe at least once a month to maintain a place in his life would be good.
ReplyDeletesorry i hadn't posted of late. will try to be better.